Body Confidence

***WARNING: Contains a picture of me in my pants***

Recently I’ve been following the #30DaysOfGoodStuff hashtag on Twitter which is linked to the Fat Girl PhD thing which is going on during this month. The idea is that instead of going on a drastic diet, or exercising madly for a few weeks and then throwing in the towel soon after, I’ll start to make small, manageable changes to my life. Positive thinking, mindful eating, manageable amounts of exercise, but it’s mainly about mindset and I like that.

I already eat reasonably well and I exercise enough, but I don’t think positively, not at all. I do force myself to have a positive thought each morning, but I do look in the mirror and see horrible things every single day. I’m not Claudia Schiffer, but I am me, Jane Arschavir and Jane Arschavir is alright really.

I am a woman who physically is the product of her life and lifestyle. I have scars. I have lumps and bumps and baggy and saggy bits, but I’m learning that they are me and that’s what makes me and them beautiful. Not necessarily beautiful for everyone, but some people will find my lumps, bumps, baggy and saggy bits attractive. Some people will fancy the pants off me. Some people won’t. And I’m ok with that.

When a friend shared this on Facebook I bookmarked it immediately. There are some beautiful pictures of the bodies of women and men, large and small, they have scars, some are amputees, cancer survivors or just people who have lumps, bumps, bony, baggy and saggy bits. All are beautiful and brave and inspirational. I urge you to take a few minutes and scroll through the images in the link. I hope you find them as beautiful, brave and inspirational as I do.

So in the spirit of sharing and showing that even someone as lumpy and bumpy as me can be tolerable to the eye, here is me, in my pants…

in my pants

Me, in my pants

37 responses to “Body Confidence

  1. Bravo Jane for this inspiring post. As someone who struggles with body confidence myself – I know how much courage it must have taken to put a picture of yourself “in your pants” up – and I can only applaud you! Your lady lumps are very tolerable 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your comment. I’ve never, ever liked myself and have a hard time thinking or even believing that I’m sexy or beautiful or even tolerable. I’m getting my head round the fact that I’m ok really. Oh, and you’re a stunner and never forget that 🙂

  2. You look absolutely amazing and well done you, I hope to have the confidence to do this at some point in the future and when I do? You will have inspired me to do it.

    • Thank you Keeley, you should definitely do it! It is weird having a picture of you in your pants on the Internet, but it’s no more revealing than a beach picture maybe. Go for it, it’s quite empowering 🙂

  3. Excellent post!
    Thanks for the link as well.
    This is reality. This is the human body – natural – unlike like the manipulated images that we see in magazines. Ever likely people have hang ups about their bodies – they are comparing themselves to something that isn’t real.
    These people are all beautiful.
    And you my dear, look amazing. One shexy Mama! x

    • Thank you so much for your comment. I loved that tumblr link, I keep going back to all those (unconventionally) beautiful people and reflecting on how they just are beautiful and brave to show their beauty.
      I don’t always look like that picture, but thank you. I’m 37 and for the first time ever I’m thinking that I can be quite sexy. 🙂

      • The thing is that most people look like that. Everybody has imperfections and I don’t really like that word because it implies that it’s a fault. For me, there is beauty in wrinkles and bumps. I prefer my body now, with all it’s scars, lumps & lines to when I was younger. It’s taken until my 40’s to appreciate myself. Bottom line, as all the people in the photos show, confidence is everything. Aint that what Mr Gok says? “It’s all about the confidence!” 😉 x

  4. You scrub up pretty well.. here is to being sexy at 37!!!!! 🙂

  5. Glad you went for it Jane! Very inspirational…going to check out the link as well 🙂

  6. Good on you!
    Cracking photo x

  7. Send big well done’s. Confidence is the key to grabbing the world. Go for it! X

  8. You look WOWZA!! 🙂 This is so inspirational, I think my sister needs to start thinking like this. I will have to show her your post tonight 🙂 xx

  9. Brilliant post. I did one in a swimsuit for a body confidence blog challenge I was involved in and was truly terrified, but felt amazing afterwards. Hannah Gee is right, confidence is the key to grabbing the world xx

  10. FANTASTIC. So so glad you went ahead with the post. Well done. You look bloody brill. 🙂

  11. hey sexy lady! not sure I’m brave enough to do this though I do post pics of myself in lycra 😉

  12. Very brave! The photo looks fab x

  13. Go you, Jane! And that photo is properly sexy, well done you. We should all be proud of our bodies no matter what shape we are. xxx 🙂

  14. I love that you posted a picture of you in your pants. lol It takes real courage and strength to appreciate our bodies. I think even the smallest of people have body issues and some lack body confidence. I know I always have. Go you!!! I think the media has just made us think of the female body in a way that is not healthy and impossible to maintain that fantasy for too long. Maybe for a bit but not a lifetime. I am trying to learn to love my mommy body now after two kids. eeek It’s slow going. hahaha But you inspire.

    • Brilliant comment, thank you. I loved the picture and the tumblr link inspired me. I don’t want my son to grow up in a world where what is considered perfect is unattainable for most. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that is so true. Thank you x

  15. Glenn Marvell-James

    You look fab!

  16. Elaine Jeremiah

    Good for you for telling us what we need to hear – that we don’t have to have perfect, film star bodies to be attractive, wonderful people. 🙂

  17. Great post and thank you for sharing that tumblr, it’s genius!

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