Learning to live with and accept my scars

Last Updated on September 28, 2017 by HodgePodgeDays

I am covered in scars. Sign of a life well lived or recklessly lived I don’t know. I only really regret one scar and I’m working on learning to live with and accept the rest. What is the story behind my scars and what do I really think of them?

I’ve got a number of scars on my wrist from when a glass panel fell out of a door when I was 6. I was lucky not to be cut to ribbons, but the scars are bad and I clearly remember seeing the white of the bone. For the record, bones are very white.

I have a cesarean section scar which is a reminder of my boy. I don’t regret that one bit. At the time, it was the only way for him to get out as he was stuck and we were both in trouble.

I have my back surgery scars. Twice this year I’ve been sliced and diced, so the scar is a very ugly one but hopefully will fade in time. A necessary scar because without it I’d likely be in agony and paralysed. I don’t regret that.

I have had many and various skin conditions so my legs are scarred. To figure out what was wrong I had a biopsy, so I’ve got that scar too which looks like a strange dimple in my calf, as well as marks from the skin conditions which are horrible.

My feet are in a shocking state. Years of secret self harming and picking at the scars have taken their toll. Look at the soles of my feet and you’d be shocked.

But the only scar that bothers me is the one on my hand. I cut it with the blade of some scissors, running the blade repeatedly over my flesh until it opened up. I wanted a visible reminder of my pain. Of that moment in my life which was both beautiful and terrifying. I cut it in June and the scar is still obvious and unlikely to ever really go away. I want it to fade because of what it represents but equally I want it to stay forever as a reminder.

Learning to live with My Scars
Self harm cigarette burn & the scissor scar

I look at my scars and I don’t think they’re ugly. I think they’re me. Others might think they’re ugly or disgusting or shocking but they are part of who I am. They are the map of my progress through life.

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Learning to live with My Scars

4 thoughts on “Learning to live with and accept my scars

  1. This is a lovely post. You sound like you have been through a lot but it’s great to hear you being positive about it. You should always be proud of who you are x

  2. At the risk of sounding pretty strange… but I love my self harm scars and I never want them to fade. I am a recovered self harmer.. my scars symbolise my survival. They say.. I am strong. So do yours 🙂

  3. I resonate to this. We all have scars, and we all self-harm in one way or another – though the actual physical manifestation of this is more real for some of us than for others. I have a condition known as trichotillomania that I have battled since the age of 18. When I type it I always hear James Brown singing “Living in America” in the background – it is the only positive, empowering association I have with the word. 😉 But I try to see it as my biofeedback system. It tells me what I need to know about the level of stress I’m under, and I regulate my life accordingly, as I can. Congratulations for being fearlessly honest with yourself; it gives others the chance to do the same.

  4. The significant boy in my life has his scars, they pain me, to think of what he went through hurts me. I never want them to go away, he survived, he is here with me, the future is bright and I hope he and anyone in the same position never feels that pain again x

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