Smoking & Young Children

smoking & young childrenI gave up smoking in 2004 long, long before we even contemplated having a baby. It was the right thing to do at the time. I missed it but didn’t go back to it until earlier this year. My son was 2 and a half when I started smoking again. I’d had 18 months of complex physical and mental health problems and I couldn’t deal with the stress anymore, so I started borrowing cigarettes from friends, then buying packets and then I was a smoker again.

When I started again, I promised that I wouldn’t smoke in the house or when my son was around. I never did smoke inside, but I’d smoke outside and my son, my beautiful, innocent, impressionable son would come to the window and watch me smoke. Then he figured out how to open the door and a few times he came outside to be with me. He’s seen me smoke and I’m horrified about that. It makes smoking seem normal and something nice, normal people like Mummy do. It isn’t.
I knew I had to give up and Stoptober gave me a focus and the motivation to do so. I still miss it, but I know it was the right thing to do both for me and for him. I grew up with parents who between them smoked 60 fags a day, in the house in front of us kids, in the car with the windows closed, that was the 1980’s for you, smoke filled cars and no seatbelts.

The facts about smoking in front of and near kids are that children are:
– at increased risk of developing asthma, and ear, nose and chest infections.
– at greater risk of dying from cot death (sudden infant death syndrome).
– more likely to become smokers themselves when older.
– are at increased risk of developing chronic obstructive pulmonary disease and cancer as adults.

Some studies have shown that on average, children of parents who smoke do less well at reading and reasoning skills compared to children in smoke-free homes, even at low levels of smoke exposure. That’s quite a sobering thought.

There are some people who think that parents who smoke near their children are committing some form of child abuse. I wouldn’t go that far, but it does potentially have serious health implications for the child. Both my brother and I developed asthma. I also had eczema and chronic ear infections which have now been linked to being in a smoke filled house.

My Dad has chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) and will likely live a shorter life for having that. He no longer smokes, but 40 plus years of heavy smoking have taken its toll on him. My son who adores his Grandpa will lose him sooner than he should because of smoking. My Mum still smokes and she stinks, she has health problems, she won’t give up.

Like with most things I have a live and let live attitude, do what you want as long as you don’t harm others. But the problem with smoking is it does harm others. You don’t have to be sat in the same room as them or even sat in a smoke filled car in the 1980’s; smoke will filter through, permeate, linger and harm.

If you’re pregnant or if you’ve got kids, you will have been lectured to the moon and back by GPs, Midwives, Health Visitors any healthcare professional who has crossed you path. Nothing I can say will make you quit. But if you’re thinking about it there is plenty of help and support out there if you need it. A good place to start is with your GP or pharmacy.

Quitting isn’t easy, but I guess seeing your beautiful child wheezing, struggling to breathe and puffing on an inhaler is much, much harder.

I was originally asked to write this article for a now defunct on-line magazine. It seemed a shame that it never saw the light of day – so I’m publishing it here on my blog instead.

4 thoughts on “Smoking & Young Children

  1. Very powerful.

    I too am an ex smoker, but only in the past few years. My older son grew up seeing me smoke until he was 8, and that thought upsets me. We’ve always had very frank discussions about why I never want him to start.

    I’m glad you decided to share this.

  2. Really interesting read – I love how you give facts without coming across judgemental. I started smoking when I was 13, and was ridiculously proud of giving up when I had my eldest. About a year ago work / personal stress and I ended up the same as you – smoking friends cigarettes, eventually buying my own and became a smoker again. And I still haven’t managed to give up for good, though I only smoke when at work (on my break) and in the evening when the boys are in bed – so although I’m glad they don’t know I feel awful that I’m hiding something from them. I cannot wait to have the strength to quit again, I can’t believe I ruined it after almost 5 years! 🙁

  3. I’ve never smoked, my Grandmother used to smoke in the car when I was very young and it made me feel so sick I never could face trying it myself, an odd way to be put off though and not one I would recommend!

  4. I was a social smoker before I found out I was pregnant. Then totally stopped for obvious reasons. The loss of my grandad and sever PNDadee become a now and again smoker, which soon turned in to full on smoking again. I have now given up again and my goodness I can feel the difference. 17ish weeks smoke free and I’m feeling fab. M didn’t see me smoke as I mainly did it in work, my mum smoked though so I wonder if that influenced me when I was older?
    I like this post because it’s not judgemental, some ex smokers become really preachy. I’m hoping I don’t become one of those 😉

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