How I learned to talk positively to myself every day

Five years ago I was in a horrible place, physically and mentally I was broken. It’s taken a lot of hard work to get me back to the pretty good place I find myself in today. It was a long and at times painful road. The thing that really helped me back to wellness was talking positively to myself; or rather talking to myself with a more positive voice.

I have always talked about myself negatively. I have a negative voice in my head which tells me how terrible I am, how ugly I am and how useless my life is. My negative internal voice has always had a terrible impact on my self-esteem. I don’t think the negative voice will ever really go away, but when it pipes up, I make a point of trying to find some positive things to affirm myself with.

How I learned to talk positively to myself every day

Five years ago when I was in that dark dark place, a friend sat me down and gave me a talking to. I needed to start digging myself out of the dark hole I was in. Every morning I would text them a positive thing about me. Some days it was really hard to find a good thing to say about myself, some days were easier than others.

Each time I sent a positive text to my friend I also copied it into the notes on my phone. When I needed some positive affirmation I could look back and remember good things, good times and the days when I was stronger, better, happier and know that more of those good days were ahead of me.

I no longer send those positive texts and I don’t list the good things each day. There are times when I can feel my mood dipping; my anxiety rising and I know I need to put my positivity pants on again and I make a list. I list the good things I am grateful for. I list the good things about me and my life and I try to balance every negative thing my internal voice throws at me with something good, something better, something incredibly positive about me.

It’s not an easy habit to get into, but if you struggle with your own negative voice then getting into the habit of finding something nice about yourself every morning and writing it down can help you focus a little on the positives when everything may seem quite negative.

It helped me to have someone to text my affirmation to; someone who would come back to me and say I can do better, or that’s not positive enough. It helped me to have someone to be accountable to.

It’s not a magic bullet which will cure depression, anxiety or low self-esteem. Talking positively to yourself is a tool in your armory which can help and did help me. I really do credit this daily habit I kept up for almost a year for helping to drag me out of the absolute depths of my depression.

I’ve looked back at my talking positively list. Here are a few of my positive thoughts and affirmations from that time… 

  • I know I can and will survive what life throws at me.
  • Overthinking and dwelling is bad. I can stop it and I will.
  • I am so lucky to be as loved as I am.
  • It’s a beautiful day and full of possibilities.
  • I can make good things happen to myself.
  • There is nothing to panic about. Everything is ok.
  • People can’t hurt me unless I let them.

How I learned to talk positively to myself every day

Recipe: Orange Poppy Seed Cake – a teatime treat!

Lemon and poppy seed cake is such a classic and one of my favourite bakes. It’s a cake that’s pretty easy to make and with a lovely drizzle icing, it always looks so homely and delicious. With a celebration in mind I decided to turn a cheery bag of juicy oranges into something a little bit special. It’s a little twist on the original, topped with candied oranges and bursting with sweet citrus flavours – my Orange Poppy Seed Cake is a teatime showstopper!

Recipe: Orange Poppy Seed Cake for Mother's Day

This Orange Poppy Seed Cake is made with Orange Zest Spice Drops which add a lovely freshly squeezed flavour to all kinds of cakes, bakes and savory dishes. I’d used the spice drops when I made a batch of delicious candied orange slices to decorate the cake with (you can find the recipe here) and also in the Orange Poppy Seed Cake itself.

Orange Poppy Seed Cake

Ingredients:
225g soft butter or margarine
225g caster sugar
275g self-raising flour
1 heaped teaspoon of baking powder
4 eggs
4 tablespoons of milk
25g poppy seeds
12 drops of orange zest spice drops

For the drizzle icing:
225 g icing sugar
12 drops of orange zest spice drops
Tepid water, added gradually

Method:
Pre-heat your oven to 180° and grease a deep 20cm cake tin. I usually put a circle of greaseproof baking paper at the bottom to help stop the cake from sticking.

In a large mixing bowl, cream the butter and sugar together until light and fluffy. Add the rest of the ingredients and mix well. Scrape into your cake tin, smooth the top and pop it in your pre-heated oven. Bake for 50-60 minutes. Poke it with a skewer to make sure it’s cooked through.

Leave the cake to cool in the tin, then turn it out put it onto your cake stand or serving dish.

Mix up your icing, drop your orange zest spice drops into the icing sugar and add the water gradually, mixing as you go until you have a drizzle icing of the right consistency – which is loose but not runny. Spread it over the top of the cake allowing some to dribble down the sides of the cake.

Recipe: Orange Poppy Seed Cake for Mother's Day Recipe: How to make Candied Orange Slices

Take your candied oranges and slice them in half, fan them around the top of the cake, gently pressing them into the drizzle icing so they stick in position. Now admire your pretty cake and serve with a lovely cup of tea!

If you enjoyed this, you might also like my awesome Turkish Delight Cake.

 

Recipe: Orange Poppy Seed Cake for Mother's Day

Easy Recipe: Sparkly Chocolate Cups

I love getting homemade cards and gifts from my son on Mother’s Day (and any other day he wants to make me something). As you can probably imagine, we’re quite big on baking at home and we bake for almost any occasion. I’m a firm believer in making life easy for myself. Whilst I’m happy to bake a fairly complex cake, there’s definitely space in my kitchen for incredibly simple recipes. I’ve made these Sparkly Chocolate Cups for Mother’s Day. They’re very, very easy to make and perfect for kids to make with a little adult supervision.

Easy Recipe: Sparkly Chocolate Cups for Mother's Day

Not only are they great for kids to make, if you lack confidence in the kitchen, these are so easy to make and look pretty impressive too.

Sparkly Chocolate Cups

Ingredients:
250g of good quality dark or milk chocolate
Cake decorating sprinkles, stars, silver balls, whatever you fancy

You will need:
A saucepan, a glass bowl which will sit in the pan, but so it doesn’t touch the bottom, a metal spoon, some cupcake cases – I used silicone but paper ones are fine.

How to make your chocolate cups:
Boil some water and pour the water into your pan so it’s about 3cm deep. Carefully place the glass bowl in the pan making sure the bottom of the bowl doesn’t touch the water. This is called a bain marie.

Break your chocolate up into small pieces and put it in the glass bowl, the water in the pan needs to be at a gentle simmer, not bubbling and boiling. Stir the chocolate until it is melted.

Once the chocolate is melted, with a spoon scoop about two dessert spoons of melted chocolate into each cupcake case. Gently shake each one so the chocolate settles.

Once you’ve used all of your chocolate, take your chosen sprinkles and sprinkle as much or as little as you like over the top of each chocolate. Leave them to cool for at least two hours.

Easy Recipe: Sparkly Chocolate Cups for Mother's Day

Once they’re cool you can either take the chocolates out of their cases and put them in a nice gift box or cellophane bag, or you could just present them as they are in their pretty cupcake cases.

They’re so easy to make and they look impressive, whoever you give these to will be as pleased as punch!

If you enjoyed this recipe, you might also like these super-easy love heart jam tarts.

Easy Recipe: Sparkly Chocolate Cups for Mother's Day

Make A Squash and a Squeeze Story Book Bag

Encouraging a love of books and a love of reading in some children can be a harder job that you’d imagine. It can be really fun and useful to try to bring a story to life. You could use silly voices, or act out the story with puppets, or put together a story book bag. A story book bag is a great way to bring a story to life. I’ve done one with one of our favourite books – A Squash and a Squeeze by Julia Donaldson.

A Squash and a Squeeze is the story of a little old lady lives all by herself in her little house but she’s not happy. Her house just feels too small, but what can she do? She seeks out the help of a wise old man who advises her to bring in a flappy, scratchy, greedy, noisy crowd of farm animals. When he eventually advises her to evict all of the animals, he house suddenly feels big again.

Make A Squash and a Squeeze Story Book Bag

A Squash and a Squeeze is a lovely story to read out loud. Like Julia Donaldson’s other books, it’s wonderfully rhythmic and really enjoyable. The illustrations in the book are fab too, full of life and action, though for copyright reasons I used royalty free images instead of the iconic Axel Scheffler illustrations from the book.

Story book bags are a lovely thing to make up. We chose one of our favourite books – A Squash and a Squeeze. I printed some suitable images onto card; cut them out and stuck them onto lolly sticks. I also gathered a few suitable props, like an egg and a jug and popped them in the bag alongside a copy of the book A Squash and a Squeeze.

You can download my story prompt cards here.

Make A Squash and a Squeeze Story Book Bag

My son absolutely loved the story book bag. It really helped bring the story to life for him. He loved using the props and acting out the story as I read it out. He enjoyed it so much, that once I’d finished reading he went on to make his own fun story using the characters.

Make A Squash and a Squeeze Story Book Bag

I’m really pleased that such a simple thing really brought the story to life. I’m delighted that it also encouraged my son to do some creative storytelling of his own. Do I have a future author on my hands? I hope so.

A Squash and a Squeeze is widely available from all good bookshops.

Make A Squash and a Squeeze Story Book Bag

Recipe: How to make Candied Orange Slices

When I spotted a cake in a local tea shop decorated with gorgeous glistening slices of preserved orange, I knew I had to find out more. It turns out they were candied orange slices and they are ridiculously easy to make, if a little time consuming. They’re fabulous for decorating a pretty cake with or for dipping in chocolate for a little teatime treat. Plus there’s an exciting by-product to the process – more of which later!

How to make Candied Orange Slices

Ingredients:
2 oranges, fairly finely sliced
1 mug of caster sugar
1 mug of boiling water (add more if required)
8 drops of Spice Drops Orange Zest Extract

Method:
In a sauté pan, or high sided frying pan, tip in the water and sugar and heat; stirring all the time until the sugar has dissolved. Add your Spice Drops Orange Zest Extract and lay your slices of orange in the pan. If you don’t have the spice drops, you can use a couple of tablespoons of orange juice instead.

Recipe: How to make Candied Orange Slices

Gently cook the orange slices for around an hour with the lid off the pan, make sure you turn them over every so often. You’re looking for the oranges to go a little translucent, once they do, they’re ready.

Carefully lay them on a cooling rack (make sure you put a cloth or paper towel underneath to catch any drips) and leave to cool and solidify overnight. Once they’ve cooled properly, they’re ready to use however you wish.

Recipe: How to make Candied Orange Slices

If you need to candy more than two oranges, I suggest you do it in batches. If you crowd the pan, they just wont cook as well. It’s not the worst thing in the world to have a pan of delicious, citrusy oranges blipping away on the hob for an afternoon!

That exciting by-product I mentioned earlier? Save the syrup the oranges have been poached in, it’s absolutely fantastic and perfect for baking, drizzling on pancakes or using in cocktails. Waste not, want not!

Recipe: How to make Candied Orange Slices

Board Games: Timeline British History Card Game

I am part of the Asmodee UK Blogger Board Game Club run by Playtime PR. Each month 50 bloggers are sent a board game to play and put to the test. This month we were sent Timeline British History Card Game to play.

Board Games: Timeline British History Card Game

We took the Timeline British History Card Game on holiday with us over half term. We were staying with some friends in a cottage with no TV; so I packed a few things to help the evenings fly by. We’d not yet played the Timeline British History Card Game, but we are all trivia fans so it felt like it would be a hit with us all.

The card game is pretty simple. It comes in a tin which makes it perfect for taking on holidays. There are 110 cards in the pack, on one side of the card is an historical event, on the other is the date of the event. Each player starts off with four cards. Taking it in turns, each player lays down a card in what they think is the right date order. If you get it wrong then you have to take another card from the pile and keep playing until someone has played all of the cards.

Board Games: Timeline British History Card Game

It can be a really quick game, or it can go on and on, depending on your knowledge of British history. I found I was pretty good with 20th Century history, but a bit wishy-washy before then.

This is absolutely my kind of game. I love a bit of historical geekery and we did get a bit competitive. The Timeline British History Card Game is suitable for ages 8+. Unless younger players have a pretty good knowledge of British history then it’s not going to be much fun for them. For four adults sharing a bottle of wine and a competitive nature, this is excellent fun.

Board Games: Timeline British History Card Game
The Timeline British History Card Game costs around £13.99 and is widely available in toy shops and online.

We were sent the Timeline British History Card Game for review for the Asmodee UK Blogger Board Game Club. All images and opinions are our own.
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Meal Planning Monday – Self Catering Special

By the time you read this I’ll be back home after a self catering holiday in Devon and Cornwall with another family. Hopefully it was a roaring success and hopefully the sun even joined us for a day or two. With two families (four adults, three children and one dog) to cater for, organisational me got into gear and set about meal planning.

With it being a holiday there will be some eating out, but to cut costs and so all of the adults could enjoy a drink or two with dinner, we’d planned four nights of dining at the cottage. I will cook for two nights and my friend Liz will cook on two other nights. Each couple will have a date night, where the other couple babysits, something I’m looking forward to!

To make life easier, I’ve ordered a big shop from Sainsbury’s which will be delivered when we arrive. The full list of what we ordered is below (I do love a nosey at other people’s shopping, don’t you). Here is our self catering menu for the week…

Meal Planning Monday - Self Catering Special

As you can see, there are some good, hearty family meals planned, some treats and some non-cooking nights for those of us who are kitchen slaves at home!

Here’s our self catering holiday shopping list. We are planning on taking a few things with us and buying a few more things once we’re there, but this should get us started! In the meantime, do you have any tips for self catering?

Self catering shopping list!

Diced Beef
Skinless & Boneless Haddock Fillets
Chicken Breast Fillets
Chocolate Mini Rolls
Quaker Oat So Simple Porridge, Sweet Cinnamon Flavour
British Mature Cheddar Cheese
Kenco Millicano Americano Instant Coffee
San Miguel Lager
Lurpak Unsalted Spreadable
Fairy Non-Bio Capsules
Yorkshire Everyday Tea Bags
Peperami Mini Original
Quorn Meat Free Mince
Full Flavour Cheddar Cheese
Paneer Cheese
Tender Green Veg Medley
Jacob’s Biscuits For Cheese Crackers
Sacla Organic Basil Pesto
Baby sweetcorn
Peanut Butter Smooth
Orange Squash, No Added Sugar
Free Range Mixed Weight Eggs x15
Magnum Mini Ice Cream, Classic, Almond & White
Wildlife Strawberry & Peach Fromage Frais
Geeta’s Mango Chutney
Frozen Summer Fruits
Garlic & Coriander Mini Naan
Plain Naan
Quorn Escalopes
Lemons & Limes
Low Fat Natural Yogurt
Sunflower Oil
Fresh Packed Coriander
Quaker Oat So Simple Porridge, Golden Syrup Flavour
Double Cream
Ice Cubes 2kg
Hovis Medium Sliced Best of Both Bread
Baked Beans
Baby Potatoes
Reduced Fat Mayonnaise
Cheddar & Spring Onion Crisps
Diet Indian Tonic Water
Vanilla Ice Cream
Pear Quarters, In Natural Juice
Santa Maria Latin American Kitchen Garlic & Herb Soft Tortillas
Popchips Barbeque Crisps
Fairtrade Bananas
Little Gem Lettuce
Large Onions
Wholemeal Muffins
Raspberry Jam, Seedless
Medium Sliced Wholemeal Bread
Crumpets
Batter Mix
Fromage Frais, Basics
Whole Cucumber
Marmalade Medium Cut
Sweetcorn, tinned
Red Kidney Beans
Gravy Granules
Winalot Complete With Beef
Rainbow Ice Lollies
West Country Semi-Skimmed Milk

Recipe: Indulgent Chocolate Barleycup Tart

Last year I seriously cut down on my caffeine intake and now I just drink a couple of cups of tea or coffee a week. These days I seem to be very sensitive to caffeine and if I have a cup of coffee too late in the day, I just won’t sleep at night. I don’t want to cut it out completely, but I do have to keep an eye on just how much I drink. With this in mind, I was sent a jar of Barleycup to try.

I’ve swapped my lunchtime coffee for Barleycup and I’ve hardly noticed the difference. Barleycup is made from roasted cereal grains and chicory roots and is free-from caffeine and contains no artificial additives. Barleycup is also gluten-free and certified by Coeliac UK.

Recipe: Indulgent Chocolate Barleycup Tart

Recipe: Indulgent Chocolate Barleycup Tart

Not content with just drinking it, I wondered if it would be any good to bake with. It turns out that it was. I made a variation on a chocolate and coffee tart, I made a deliciously indulgent Chocolate and Barleycup Tart which was every bit as good as the original. Here’s my recipe…

Chocolate and Barleycup Tart

Ingredients:
For the pastry –
4oz plain flour
2oz butter, cubed
A pinch of salt
2-3 tablespoons of cold water
-or- a packet of ready rolled shortcrust pastry

For the filling –
150g single cream
2 tablespoons of sugar
150g good quality dark chocolate
2 tablespoons of Barleycup powder dissolved in 4 tablespoons of boiling water

Method:

Tip the flour, salt and butter in a large mixing bowl. Using your fingers, rub the butter into the flour until it looks like breadcrumbs. Use a knife and stir in just enough cold water to bind the dough together. Do this gradually as you don’t want your pastry to be too wet. Once you’ve made the dough, cover the bowl and chill it in the fridge for 15 minutes or so before rolling out.

Or if you’re using shop bought, ready rolled pastry, take it out of the fridge half an hour before you want to use it.

Pre-heat your oven to gas mark 5 or 190°

Take your pastry and roll it out to the thickness of a pound coin. You can either roll it out on a floured surface, or between two pieces of baking parchment. I find the baking parchment method quicker and a lot less messy.

Grease a 20cm tart tin and carefully put the pastry in the tin, pressing it against the sides. Let the pastry hang over the sides of the tin, you can trim it later. Prick the base all over with a fork. Top the pastry with a sheet of baking parchment and cover with baking beans, bake in your pre-heated oven for 10 minutes.

Remove the baking beans and parchment and pop back in the oven for another 8 minutes. Remove from the oven and leave to cool. Once cool, carefully with a sharp knife trim the pastry so it is flush with the top of the tin.

Recipe: Indulgent Chocolate Barleycup Tart

While your pastry is cooling, warm up your cream and sugar in a saucepan. Finely chop the chocolate and once the cream is simmering, turn off the heat and add the chocolate to the pan. Leave for a minute and stir until the mixture is smooth. Add in your Barleycup mixed with water and stir until combined.

Carefully fill the tart case with the Barleycup and chocolate mix, level it off and make an artistic swirl or ripple on the top if you want. Put your tart in the fridge for a minimum of two hours, or overnight if you wish.

To serve, garnish with raspberries or chopped nuts. It is very rich, so a little goes a long way.

I can confirm that Barleycup is a great coffee substitute in baking. It works really well, adding a slight bitter note and complexity to the tart. I’ll definitely be baking with it again, I wonder what a Barleycup and walnut cake would be like?

Recipe: Indulgent Chocolate Barleycup Tart

Note: I was set a jar of Barleycup to bake with. I have not been otherwise compensated for this post.

 

Kids Crafts: How to make a cheery Daffodil flower

With the first signs of spring slowly making an appearance, and with St David’s Day around the corner, what better craft to make than a cheery daffodil or two. This lovely daffodil craft is perfect for toddlers and small children to make. It’s very simple to make and little ones will be as pleased as punch with their efforts.

St David’s Day is on 1st March and is a day of celebration of both St David’s life and the Welsh people and their culture. St David is the patron saint of Wales and on 1st March it is traditional for Welsh people to wear daffodils or leeks, both of these are the symbols of Wales. The wearing of a daffodil on St David’s Day was made popular by the Victorians, in Wales it is also known as “Peter’s leek” and its Welsh name is “Cenhinen Bedr”.

Kids Crafts: How to make a cheery Daffodil flower

Daffodils are a lovely, bright, cheery spring flower, they’re hard to find at other times of the year. Bring a bit of sunshine in with this cheery daffodil craft!

How to make a cheery Daffodil

You will need:
Some yellow paper or card, card is better
Green lolly sticks or straws
Some yellow or orange mini muffin cases
Bostik Glu Dots

Kids Crafts: How to make a cheery Daffodil flower

How to make your daffodil:

Using a pencil, draw the outline of your flower on your yellow card and carefully cut it out. An adult might want to help with this part.

Using the Glu Dots, stick the green lolly stick or straw to the back of the flower.

Kids Crafts: How to make a cheery Daffodil flower

Using another Glu Dot, stick the mini muffin case in the middle of the flower. Now admire your pretty daffodil!

It’s as simple as that. They look great, we’ve made a few and stuck them around our kitchen. They’re a cheery reminder that spring is nearly sprung and that winter will soon be behind us for another year.

If you enjoyed this, you might also like these other Crafts:

Kids Crafts: How to make a cheery Daffodil flower

Children’s Books: Five Fabulous Cook Books for Kids

Cooking isn’t really something which happens in schools much these days, so it’s even more important to get children cooking at home. I learned to cook by “helping” my Grandma in her kitchen. She was a school cook and a pâtissier, so I learned to love cooking and baking from her. I’m as keen as mustard to pass on some of that love to my son. Thankfully he loves cook books almost as much as me, he likes to go through them with me and pick out things we can make or bake together. Here are five of our favourite cook books for kids…

Baking in style with Babahoot Personalised Aprons

 

Five fabulous Cook Books for kids

Jolly Good Food: A children’s cookbook inspired by the stories of Enid Blyton by Enid Blyton and‎ Allegra McEvedy. This gorgeously jolly cook book for kids contains 42 recipes designed by chef Allegra McEvedy; each inspired by Enid Blyton’s stories; do you fancy a picnic with the Famous Five or a midnight feast with the Malory Towers girls? This is an easy to follow, fun cook book, perfect for Blyton fans young and young at heart!

I Can Cook by Sally Brown and‎ Kate Morris is the spin-off book from the popular CBeebies series I Can Cook. I Can Cook and presenter Katy Ashworth have been inspiring pre-schoolers and their parents for years. The series and this book are a great way to get children and families talking about food and cooking up a few recipes of their own. The book contains over 50 recipes to try at home. Packed with simple step-by-step pictures and easy to follow the instructions; kids can learn to make all kinds of delicious meals, such as cheesy lasagne, breakfast muffins and chunky banana bread. It’s the perfect first cook book for little ones!

Gruffalo Crumble and Other Recipes by Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler. My friend Liz recommended this book to me, her girls love to cook up a Gruffalo themed feast. This book contains 24 recipes, each inspired by the goings on in the deep, dark wood. If you’ve always wanted to try Gruffalo Crumble, then this is the book for you!

The River Cottage Family Cookbook by Hugh Fearnley-Whittingstall and‎ Fizz Carr is one of my favourite cook books full stop. It’s written for slightly older children and contains easy to follow recipes which are family friendly. The fish pie recipe is the best one ever and my family will happily devour it in one sitting! The book explains a little more about food, where it comes from and gives some tips on getting the best out of your ingredients. I’ts the perfect gift for cookery curious kids!

Children’s Cookbook: Delicious Step-by-Step Recipes by Katharine Ibbs and‎ Catherine Saunders is an excellent and comprehensive cook book for children. This book contains over 50 simple recipes and helpful tips and tricks, which will have you whipping up brilliant meals in no time at all. This children’s cook book has a lovely varied selection of recipes, it might be just the thing to get children to try new things and explore different kinds of food!

What areyour favourite cook books for kids? Do you cook with your family? What’s your favourite recipe?

If you enjoyed this, you might also enjoy my other children’s book round ups!

Children’s Books: Five Fabulous Cook Books for Kids

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